Workshops are presented by a diverse group of national, international, regional and local presenters.
Below is a partial list of the approved workshops. More will be posted as we receive and approve them.
(click titles to open for presenter bios and full class descriptions)
A Master/slave relationship is a dance of souls, each drawing the other into a ferocious embrace that facilitates healing, growth and ultimately egoic surrender in both the Master and the slave.
In this presentation you are invited to dialogue with slave Rick as he shares some thought provoking realizations derived from his 25+ year relationship with his Master, and from his experiences as a practicing psychotherapist within the BDSM community (www.KinkTherapistLosAngeles.com), that will assist you in recognizing the enticing rhythms of your own particular D/s dance.
This advanced (301) workshop supports creating and maintaining FRE (Forever Relationship Energy). How to identify areas that need attention. How to identify and address resistance, reactance, reluctance, and impedance. Identify where you are in your relationship cycle and ideas for intentional movement towards alignment and cohesion. Exposure to new concepts such as MASK- Authority Imbalanced Dynamic Glitch Analysis and key Ingredients for sustainability. A willing Leader and willing follower are an unstoppable force!
As a slave, one often aligns to the will of another. At times, the line that indicates what amount of surrender is enough and what is too much may become blurred. In this discussion, we will look at what it means to surrender, align, where the line that marks “too much” is for each of us. We will talk about maintaining individual power and sense of self while offering surrender, that is healthy and sustainable. In order to provide a safe space to share, this class is limited to people who serve, surrender, and follow.
Center of body and mind, alignment, connection, and balance are principles used in the martial arts and other arts to create powerful and strong technique. Master slave relationships require an alignment of direction and action to have a powerful and balanced relationship. In this class, Tomo will use these martial arts principles to lead us in investigating how we can increase our connection and alignment from both sides of an authority exchange and maintain our center during challenging times. We will examine alignment from the perspectives of the Leader and the follower, how it affects one’s emotional center, how the Leader can guide the follower around difficult obstacles and how the follower can negotiate an impediment and meet the Leader on an aligned path. This class welcomes perspectives from both sides of the Authority Exchange relationship.
Sir DaddyDaun was raised in a Southern Baptist family with eight, yes eight, ministers in Her immediate family. Service is the very core of Her being. Those roots have morphed from ‘organized religion’ to a broader spirituality. She not only had to come to grips with changing how She served Her Higher Powers but how to do this while allowing another to serve Her. Meanwhile Her slave, girl j was raised to never ‘buy into’ any religion ever. Ever. Breaking away from those rules, she found her calling was to serve a Master who served Their Higher Powers. Join Sir DaddyDaun and slavegirl j as T/they share how T/their separate paths of Master and slave joined into one of a spiritual Master/slave dynamic.
Living in a community that is on the edge of ""normal"" societal behaviors can open the door for real abuse to occur. When is it time to step in if what you perceive happening is abuse? And what is the appropriate way to do it? International Master 2017/2021 Sir DaddyDaun has spent 30 years in the lifestyle and witnessed several situations where someone either was stopped or should have been stopped. Join Her and her slave, International slave 2017/2021 girl j, as T/they talk about several possible abuse situations, deescalation tactics, tips, and success stories.
Most who identify on the Left side of the slash has heard at one point or another "I have no limits" or "I want to have my limits pushed". Without negotiation and consent we can't even begin to know where to start. But what does it mean when you DO know? And how do you do it? After understanding the basic fundamentals and putting them into practice, we often grow and evolve beyond our first steps and often we yearn for harder; for more extreme. In this discussion we will go over what it takes to know when you're ready and how to push past your limits. This class is not exclusive to one side of the slash or another. As a D type how do we safely, patiently and carefully help ourselves as well as our s-types develop and as an s-type, how does one ask, or approach and respectfully request more? The misconception is that our limits are simple and easy to "push" but the reality is much more complicated and nuanced. Together, we'll work to peel back the layers and move forward on our journeys without going too hard too fast and burning ourselves out or souring ourselves altogether by biting into, or off, more than we can chew.
Mentors and mentees are an often overlooked component to growth in the lifestyle and world of Power exchange. Many mistake this as a form of power exchange and confuse it with intimate relationships. Mentors can be on either side of the slash, or switches, as well as mentees. This discussion will focus on the dos and don'ts, the important roles they play, and how enriching a journey can become if this type of role is employed. Having been on both sides of this kind of interaction, we will discuss the nuances and misconceptions as well as the purpose and reward of being either a Mentor or Mentee.
In M/s dynamics, not all service is physical. Some of it is written, sung, whispered, and remembered. This class explores the power of storytelling, ritual writing, contracts, and documentation in power exchange. From training logs and House charters to devotional poetry and personal myth, Saint guides participants through the living record of a dynamic. Whether you're the archivist preserving structure or the oracle dreaming the future, you are part of the mythmaking. Leave with tools to record your Leather legacy in both practical and poetic form.
You’ve served for years. Or ruled for decades. And then one day… it shifts. This class explores what happens when someone transitions their public identity in the M/s community, from slave to Master, or Master to slave. How do you know it’s real? How do you explain it to others? How do you navigate stigma, shame, and the fear of being seen as “less real”? Most of us are not carved in stone. We are people. We grow. We break and rebuild. This class offers thoughtful guidance on rebranding, reclaiming, and ritualizing your transition with honesty and dignity. Saint leads a personal and cultural examination of what it means to change your keys, claim a new name, and begin again without erasing who you were.
Living an Authority Transfer Dynamics can involve unusual challenges on how to communicate when the discussion develops an emotional charge. Is it possible to have clear communication where all parties feel heard and recognized when authority imbalance is involved? Should one “step out of the dynamic” in order to fully express themselves? Join Goddess as we discuss multiple communication, de-escalation and repair techniques that are useful in creating a safe and effective space for resolving difficult situations.
24/7 relationships are often burdened with the mundane act of living. How do you keep the fire burning with dishes in the sink or the lawn needs mowing or the kids have the flu? We will explore how to bring intention, presence, and meaning into something ordinary. It’s not about adding complexity, but depth. By bringing awareness, gratitude, and intention into the smallest acts you infuse the everyday with the sacred and strengthen your dynamics.
Some of us were taught that the Prime Directive is to protect the property, but what comes after that? This workshop proposes ten principles for a service person’s life that empower us to meet a Master’s desires, stay true to ourselves and enlivened in our service. These principles can inform us in those times when our path seems unclear to us or when our Masters are unavailable to guide us. We’ll look at our own personal principles and consider whether there are principles that are more universal to the institution of consensual service.
These dynamics can be challenging, often revealing unexpected vulnerabilities. By becoming more attuned to your responses to power, both given and received, and by developing emotional intelligence, you can build stronger, more fulfilling connections. The workshop will explore understanding your personal reactions to authority, enhancing your emotional intelligence and self-regulation skills within the context of your dynamic, and building resilience in the face of challenges that may arise. Through increased self awareness and emotional intelligence, you can create a more balanced and conscious power exchange.
When you hear “young leather” you probably think of a 18-30-year-old, who has just put on their first pair of boots and walked into their first bar or have somewhere between 0-5 years in the lifestyle. You also may think of the “children” who have no idea of the history, the past, the struggles and sacrifices made before their lifetime. However, I’m here to change that. We see a constant struggle in our community both nationally, and locally in bridging the age gap between the elders, and older generation of our community and the younger, new or upcoming Leatherfolk. In this class, you will learn the versatile group that ”young leather” can cover, as well as the similarities and differences, making it easier to talk, bond and grow with the younger generations. To create a community that is a safe haven for our alternative lifestyle, we must make sure we have raised individuals to carry it on.
Being in a dynamic with a person is complicated enough. Add in a transition for someone who is Female-to-Male or Male-to-Female, or someone who identifies on the non-binary spectrum, can make those already complicated ideas and scenarios, seem daunting. From medical challenges, sexual differences, and navigating the waves of changing in moods and comfort levels (both mentally and physically); we are here to help add some guiding points along the road of non-binary and transgender persons within a dynamic.
Why do some people need the community and others don’t? How has your view of the community changed over the past 5 years? Many aspects of people’s lives, where they live, where they work or even if they are going to work and what matters to them now has changed dramatically. With the current state of the country, many peopLe are confused and scared. Let's talk about whether community is still important to us and the challenges we have really functioning as a community.
The purpose of this class is to discuss some differences between The Old Generation (TOG) and The Next
Generation (TNG,) to discuss some of the myths of “Old Guard,” to share our common knowledge, to find tools to learn from each other to help make our community strong, and to explore and share resources.
Rules, rituals, and protocols provide the structural pillars which define most authority dynamics. While some are common and widely practiced, no two relationships are alike and the same holds true of individual dynamic parameters. In their two decades of practicing M/s, members of House Amor have learned that not all rules, rituals, and protocols are created equal. In this class we’ll dig deep into the nuance of designing, implementing, adapting, and and even discarding them at times. Master Dante will share the concept of his Protocol Priority Matrix. We’ll look at how to assess the emotional, psychological, and practical impact of how any given rule, ritual, or protocol is designed and implemented. We’ll explore recipes for success and failure, dispel a few sacred cows, and offer new perspectives on the way these invaluable tools support and inform our dynamics.
Punishment is a polarizing topic in M/s circles. For some it's a key pillar of the authority dynamic, while others point to extensive psychology research which outlines why it's counterproductive. We'll explore the difference between correction, punishment, and discipline. We'll look at how apology, forgiveness, absolution, and ritual can be potent tools at those times when actions, or the lack thereof, may warrant intentional consequences for the greater good of our dynamics. We'll also look at course correction and re-alignment in M/s when punishment plays no part.
Master Don and Petra are a Master/slave couple that have a fairly significant age difference between them. What type of challenges does a couple like this face? How do they deal with it? How have they dealt with illness and the natural progression of aging? How do they integrate their likes and dislikes that come from being 24 years apart? How do you form such a close bond with someone from a different generation? Master Don and Petra share how they do it and some of the struggles they’ve been through.
There are certain qualities within an M/s relationship that form the bedrock of that relationship. The bedrock is basically the foundation of what supports a relationship and continues ;to make it strong by giving it a sound basis from which to grow and flourish. Join Master Don and Petra as they discuss what makes up the bedrock of their Ms relationship and how that relationship has lasted almost 30 years.
We are often terrified at the notion of failing. Society tells us that being a failure sucks. Over and over, we see reaffirmations of these false narratives. In reality, failure can, and often does, lead to success and generally favorable outcomes. The difference is how one reacts to failures and mistakes, intentional and unintentional, how to make things right, accepting our limitations, and working through them. This class takes us through some of our “failures,” past (v1.0) and present (v2.0), to help show how they can be graceful.
Some war stories and thought-provoking introspection on how you deal with the unexpected.
Health issues, immobility, mortality, unemployment? Let’s talk about how to be prepared for the things that can happen in life.
Service is at the heart of our dynamics and our community. Let's take a look at what service can look like from the Left side of the slash. In this interactive discussion, Master Jim will share some of his personal journey into Mastery, and some of the different ways he has embraced being a ""Master in service"". Come prepared to share your experiences on this topic from both sides of the slash.
Even if you know your current relationship has elements of an authority exchange, how do you transition a long term egalitarian relationship to an intentional authority exchange? MasterJim and dee describe the value of understanding who they already were in their marriage to understand better how to transition to an authority exchange. They will discuss the process, challenges faced, and lessons learned in the steps towards creating their new dynamic
Does having mental health challenges automatically make it so that you cannot be in a healthy
M/s dynamic? Not necessarily. In this discussion, we hope to show you tools to help you navigate your
M/s dynamic despite mental health diagnoses. Autism, PTSD, ADHD, Trauma, Depression, and more can
make navigation in the dynamic trickier. We will be discussing ways to improve your relationship while
working toward better mental health. Especially in these challenging times, daily stressors can make
things even more difficult. We will be also discussing expectations for coping with mental illnesses and
greater awareness about what behaviors can be managed within a diagnosis as well as how
we perceive mental health differently as Masters and slaves.
We all have the fantasy picture of what the perfect Power Exchange relationship looks like, with
all the leather and chains. But when real life comes calling, the “real” dynamic tends to look a lot
different. We discuss ways to ensure that your dynamics can still be fulfilling when wearing yoga pants
instead of skimpy leather outfits. With real life responsibilities like taking kids to scouts or band practice,
how can the hockey dad and yoga pants mom make time to feed the dynamic that we envisioned in the
beginning?
Too often we hear about members of the Ms community not being welcome at
conferences, events, meetings, or play spaces due to their ethnicity, sexual orientation,
race, gender identity, socioeconomic status. We are a family, and we need to support
others. There is hope that we can find ways to create inclusivity at our events. Offering
diverse classes,gender neutral bathrooms, safety measures so that everyone feels safe
at an event, and so much more. We can work together to create a community where
everyone feels seen, heard and respected.
As Masters, we often focus on the mechanics of leading our dynamics, but just as crucial is embracing the leader we are within. This class will explore how our identity, values, and personal experiences influence and shape our unique leadership style in Master/slave dynamics. Through reflective exercises, group discussions, and actionable tools, you’ll gain clarity on what it means to lead authentically on your own terms, not by imitating someone else’s idea of what a Master should be. Whether you’re just beginning your journey or have years of experience, this class provides a space to confidently embrace your leadership role with pride.
“I miss you,” isn’t the glue that keeps our long-distance [M/s D/s] together as nicely as we might hope. Let’s talk about tools and coping mechanisms for maintaining relationships and dynamics. Time, distance, and life challenges are when [M/s D/s] becomes secondary. How do we intentionally keep us together when life is trying to tear us apart
Whether new or experienced, imposter syndrome can, at times, undermine our beliefs, sense of self, attitudes, and personal confidence (in our abilities, skills, knowledge, etc.). This class is a deep dive into the subversive internal voice of self-doubt and explores how, when left unchecked, it can create real challenges to our identities and relationships - especially when we bring it into our dynamics. Join us as we explore imposter syndrome - from both sides of the slash; we will review strategies for recognizing it, potential sources, the impact on the self and the dynamic, and approaches to address imposter syndrome.
Whether in a Master/slave, long term, or new Dynamic, conscious or subconscious resistance to the agreed terms of the Dynamic can periodically appear - in behaviours, attitudes, or the follow through on expectations. On the surface it can appear only the s side of the slash can be resistant; however, resistance can manifest for either side of the slash at different points in a Dynamic. Left unchecked and unrecognized, it has the potential to undermine the strongest of Dynamics. This class explores resistance, and how to identify when this is happening in both ourselves and our persons. Sharing from our 28 years living in a long-term Dynamic, we will delve into strategies to identify the source and navigate the impact internal or external factors have on our Dynamics. It is Understanding resistance and developing strategies to mitigate the impact can help overcome misunderstandings, provide opportunities for growth, and build a Dynamic for longevity.
Because, as the Talmud teaches, “We don’t see things as they are, we see things as we are,” relationships of all types are often rife with projection. If such projection goes unrecognized and unaddressed, then alienation, isolation and, ultimately, dissolution of the relationship is the result. In the case of a Master/slave relationship, the slave projects his or her ideas, feelings and attitudes regarding authority figures onto the Master, and if that projection includes anger, fear, blame or guilt, the toll it takes on both the relationship and the Master’s self-esteem can be tremendous. In this enlightening presentation, Master Skip will explore the underlying psycho-spiritual dynamics that make it possible for a Master to stand in the middle of a slave’s projection without moving, neither accepting the projection nor rejecting it and, in doing so, facilitate the slave’s awareness of the projection, the Master’s own sense of competency, and the realization of the true nature of the relationship for them
During his quarter-century journey as a Master, the experiences of Master Taíno have been many and have shaped his Mastery, his philosophy and his teachings. In this class, Master Taíno will address several aspects or the Master/slave relationships that he has learned throughout the years and that he considers essential to better our M/s relationships. Join us to pick up the wisdom of Master Taíno, now named as a Leather Grandpa.
Kinky baby boomers are now old and need to pass the torch to the younger generations. What is the responsibility of the elders? What should be the approach of the newbies? Master Taíno has a lot of experience working and mentoring young folks and will share his ideas and experiences on the topic. He will lead a discussion on how to make different generations to work together, and how the new generations can live their kinks and M/s relationships their way and contribute to our community.
Join us for a transformative presentation that delves into the unique intersection of perimenopause and power dynamics within relationships. This class empowers relationships by providing comprehensive insights, practical strategies, and emotional support during this significant life transition. What You'll Learn: • Understanding Perimenopause: Gain an understanding of the physical, emotional, and psychological changes that occur during perimenopause.
Who Should Attend: This class is ideal for anyone interested in learning more about the interplay between perimenopause and relationship dynamics. Format: Our interactive presentation and Q&A session. Empower yourself and your relationship through this pivotal life stage. Embrace the strength in change and foster a supportive, balanced partnership. Join us for ""Strength in Change: Exploring Perimenopause and Partner Dynamics"" and embark on a journey of transformation and empowerment.
What is Women in Mastery, and is revisiting or learning Life Skills really important? Yes, it is important! This empowering class is designed for women on the Left-side of the slash to explore essential life skills that foster personal mastery and well-being. We will share perspectives and discuss areas such as effective communication, emotional intelligence, goal setting, and self-care, all in support of a healthier lifestyle journey. Through reflective exercises, attendees will identify their strengths, skills, and challenges while sharing experiences to learn from one another. We will discuss practical strategies for navigating life's complexities (vanilla and lifestyle intertwined) and find tools to stay resilient and confident on our journey. Can we talk, celebrate our journeys, and cultivate the skills needed to master lifestyle challenges together?
Transgender and gender nonbinary people have nontraditional relationships with their bodies, and it is
imperative that members of the kink, BDSM, and M/s members understand who we are and the
motivations that bring us to these worlds. This lecture examines the intersection between transgender identities and alternate lifestyles as well as how these lifestyles seem perfectly suited to offer such individuals access to pleasurable forms of sexual expression that bypass – and sometimes subvert – the difficulties often faced by trans and gender nonbinary people otherwise, also arguing that these nontraditional forms of sexual expression are acts of political resistance that facilitate an ongoing examination of the human experience.
Curious about Master/slave relationships but unsure where to start? This class unpacks the fundamentals of 24/7 power exchange, exploring what makes it different from other dynamics, common myths, and how to determine if this path is right for you. Ideal for those taking their first steps into the world of consensual authority exchange.
Level: Beginner
Power exchange goes beyond rules and protocols—it thrives on emotional connection. This class explores how to balance authority with intimacy, recognize and meet emotional needs, and incorporate rituals that reinforce trust and deepen your bond. You’ll gain tools to enhance the emotional richness of your M/s relationship.
Level: Intermediate
This class is intended for those seeking to develop protocols that support and accommodate mental health challenges. We will concentrate on crisis management, consent models, and effective communication, with mental health as a priority. We will also discuss how to create adaptive protocols that promote stability, trust, and emotional well-being with a mental health focus, while preserving the integrity of Total Power Exchanges or M/s Dynamics.
In this class we discuss the parallels of a M/s Dynamic compared to a CEO/coo business template. Together we will explore how roles compare to each other by defining hierarchy and responsibilities of each. We will talk about trust and interdependence through a foundation based on empowered communication. Finally, we will recognize the differences between consensual, intimate relationships vs. professional structures and how to pull from each to enhance your own dynamic.
You’ve met the person of your dreams. You crave deep connection and power exchange—but every few months, you're stuck in the same fight over control. One of you won't take it. The other won't give it. Why does this keep happening? In this workshop, we go far beyond surface-level dynamics to explore the psychology, communication patterns, and behavioral cycles that create recurring power struggles in Power Exchange (PE) relationships. Using a blend of research, and personal stories we break down the different components of Power Exchange and how missteps in each domain can destabilize even the most consensual dynamics. You'll learn how to identify and correct common errors in leadership, surrender, collaboration, and protocol enforcement. We will help you stop having the same conflict on repeat—and instead, build a dynamic grounded in clarity, collaboration, and consent.
This thought-provoking presentation explores codependency in Power Exchange and kink. Codependency is a complex pattern of interaction that can occur in any type of relationship, but due to the power imbalance in Power Exchange and cultural context of the kink community, can be particularly difficult to navigate. Drawing on current research and clinical experience this workshop guides attendees through the manifestation and consequences of codependence in Power Exchange and kink dynamics including; examination of key characteristics of codependent behavior, strategies for addressing codependent patterns, and the impact of codependency on consent and individual mental health. This presentation is designed for anyone seeking a deeper understanding of the intricacies of Power Exchange relationships, as well as individuals struggling with codependency or a history of trauma and abuse. Whether you are new to the kink community or a seasoned veteran, this presentation provides valuable insight on navigating the challenging terrain of service, caretaking, and codependency in kink and Power Exchange.
In this class, Sir North, who is diagnosed with ADHD, and slave Akasha, who is diagnosed with autism, will share their personal experiences and insights on navigating neurodiversity within a Master/slave dynamic and within the larger context of WIITWD. Participants will have the opportunity to explore the intersection of autism and ADHD in the context of power exchange dynamics and relationships, common challenges faced by individuals with these conditions, the social contracts inside and outside of the community and how neurodiverse folx navigate those social contracts, as well as strategies for effective communication, structure, and support within power exchange relationships. This class aims to foster a greater understanding and acceptance of neurodiversity in the M/s and WIITWD community and provide practical tools for creating more inclusive and supportive dynamics.
We spend so much time talking about building dynamics, but what happens when one feels they’ve lost touch with their slave heart? Join us for a vulnerable discussion about slave Gaia’s journey from finding herself frustrated, angry, ashamed and even resenting service many years in, to discovering new dimensions of surrender and the place she always needed to be in the first place. What happens when you have competing needs? Wanting to be respected, capable, and strong but underlying all of those voices is a deep need to be a joyfully surrendered doormat? How does one justify fighting passionately for societal equity while begging for utter personal objectification and inequity? Join us as we share the journey back to center, where she found her slave heart beating stronger than ever, and how reconciling these questions has dramatically changed the shape of our lives for the better.
Does the person to the right of the slash have to have a submissive personality? How can someone with a dominant personality thrive in a service role? The answers are not always as obvious as it would seem. This class looks at how it can work and work well for everyone involved.
A Master/slave relationship is a dance of souls, each drawing the other into a ferocious embrace that facilitates healing, growth and ultimately egoic surrender in both the Master and the slave.
In this presentation you are invited to dialogue with slave Rick as he shares some thought provoking realizations derived from his 25+ year relationship with his Master, and from his experiences as a practicing psychotherapist within the BDSM community (www.KinkTherapistLosAngeles.com), that will assist you in recognizing the enticing rhythms of your own particular D/s dance.
This advanced (301) workshop supports creating and maintaining FRE (Forever Relationship Energy). How to identify areas that need attention. How to identify and address resistance, reactance, reluctance, and impedance. Identify where you are in your relationship cycle and ideas for intentional movement towards alignment and cohesion. Exposure to new concepts such as MASK- Authority Imbalanced Dynamic Glitch Analysis and key Ingredients for sustainability. A willing Leader and willing follower are an unstoppable force!
As a slave, one often aligns to the will of another. At times, the line that indicates what amount of surrender is enough and what is too much may become blurred. In this discussion, we will look at what it means to surrender, align, where the line that marks “too much” is for each of us. We will talk about maintaining individual power and sense of self while offering surrender, that is healthy and sustainable. In order to provide a safe space to share, this class is limited to people who serve, surrender, and follow.
Center of body and mind, alignment, connection, and balance are principles used in the martial arts and other arts to create powerful and strong technique. Master slave relationships require an alignment of direction and action to have a powerful and balanced relationship. In this class, Tomo will use these martial arts principles to lead us in investigating how we can increase our connection and alignment from both sides of an authority exchange and maintain our center during challenging times. We will examine alignment from the perspectives of the Leader and the follower, how it affects one’s emotional center, how the Leader can guide the follower around difficult obstacles and how the follower can negotiate an impediment and meet the Leader on an aligned path. This class welcomes perspectives from both sides of the Authority Exchange relationship.
Sir DaddyDaun was raised in a Southern Baptist family with eight, yes eight, ministers in Her immediate family. Service is the very core of Her being. Those roots have morphed from ‘organized religion’ to a broader spirituality. She not only had to come to grips with changing how She served Her Higher Powers but how to do this while allowing another to serve Her. Meanwhile Her slave, girl j was raised to never ‘buy into’ any religion ever. Ever. Breaking away from those rules, she found her calling was to serve a Master who served Their Higher Powers. Join Sir DaddyDaun and slavegirl j as T/they share how T/their separate paths of Master and slave joined into one of a spiritual Master/slave dynamic.
Workshops are presented by a diverse group of national, international, regional and local presenters.
Below is a partial list of the approved workshops. More will be posted as we receive and approve them.
(click titles to open for presenter bios and full class descriptions)
A Master/slave relationship is a dance of souls, each drawing the other into a ferocious embrace that facilitates healing, growth and ultimately egoic surrender in both the Master and the slave.
In this presentation you are invited to dialogue with slave Rick as he shares some thought provoking realizations derived from his 25+ year relationship with his Master, and from his experiences as a practicing psychotherapist within the BDSM community (www.KinkTherapistLosAngeles.com), that will assist you in recognizing the enticing rhythms of your own particular D/s dance.
This advanced (301) workshop supports creating and maintaining FRE (Forever Relationship Energy). How to identify areas that need attention. How to identify and address resistance, reactance, reluctance, and impedance. Identify where you are in your relationship cycle and ideas for intentional movement towards alignment and cohesion. Exposure to new concepts such as MASK- Authority Imbalanced Dynamic Glitch Analysis and key Ingredients for sustainability. A willing Leader and willing follower are an unstoppable force!
As a slave, one often aligns to the will of another. At times, the line that indicates what amount of surrender is enough and what is too much may become blurred. In this discussion, we will look at what it means to surrender, align, where the line that marks “too much” is for each of us. We will talk about maintaining individual power and sense of self while offering surrender, that is healthy and sustainable. In order to provide a safe space to share, this class is limited to people who serve, surrender, and follow.
Center of body and mind, alignment, connection, and balance are principles used in the martial arts and other arts to create powerful and strong technique. Master slave relationships require an alignment of direction and action to have a powerful and balanced relationship. In this class, Tomo will use these martial arts principles to lead us in investigating how we can increase our connection and alignment from both sides of an authority exchange and maintain our center during challenging times. We will examine alignment from the perspectives of the Leader and the follower, how it affects one’s emotional center, how the Leader can guide the follower around difficult obstacles and how the follower can negotiate an impediment and meet the Leader on an aligned path. This class welcomes perspectives from both sides of the Authority Exchange relationship.
Sir DaddyDaun was raised in a Southern Baptist family with eight, yes eight, ministers in Her immediate family. Service is the very core of Her being. Those roots have morphed from ‘organized religion’ to a broader spirituality. She not only had to come to grips with changing how She served Her Higher Powers but how to do this while allowing another to serve Her. Meanwhile Her slave, girl j was raised to never ‘buy into’ any religion ever. Ever. Breaking away from those rules, she found her calling was to serve a Master who served Their Higher Powers. Join Sir DaddyDaun and slavegirl j as T/they share how T/their separate paths of Master and slave joined into one of a spiritual Master/slave dynamic.
Living in a community that is on the edge of ""normal"" societal behaviors can open the door for real abuse to occur. When is it time to step in if what you perceive happening is abuse? And what is the appropriate way to do it? International Master 2017/2021 Sir DaddyDaun has spent 30 years in the lifestyle and witnessed several situations where someone either was stopped or should have been stopped. Join Her and her slave, International slave 2017/2021 girl j, as T/they talk about several possible abuse situations, deescalation tactics, tips, and success stories.
Most who identify on the Left side of the slash has heard at one point or another "I have no limits" or "I want to have my limits pushed". Without negotiation and consent we can't even begin to know where to start. But what does it mean when you DO know? And how do you do it? After understanding the basic fundamentals and putting them into practice, we often grow and evolve beyond our first steps and often we yearn for harder; for more extreme. In this discussion we will go over what it takes to know when you're ready and how to push past your limits. This class is not exclusive to one side of the slash or another. As a D type how do we safely, patiently and carefully help ourselves as well as our s-types develop and as an s-type, how does one ask, or approach and respectfully request more? The misconception is that our limits are simple and easy to "push" but the reality is much more complicated and nuanced. Together, we'll work to peel back the layers and move forward on our journeys without going too hard too fast and burning ourselves out or souring ourselves altogether by biting into, or off, more than we can chew.
Mentors and mentees are an often overlooked component to growth in the lifestyle and world of Power exchange. Many mistake this as a form of power exchange and confuse it with intimate relationships. Mentors can be on either side of the slash, or switches, as well as mentees. This discussion will focus on the dos and don'ts, the important roles they play, and how enriching a journey can become if this type of role is employed. Having been on both sides of this kind of interaction, we will discuss the nuances and misconceptions as well as the purpose and reward of being either a Mentor or Mentee.
In M/s dynamics, not all service is physical. Some of it is written, sung, whispered, and remembered. This class explores the power of storytelling, ritual writing, contracts, and documentation in power exchange. From training logs and House charters to devotional poetry and personal myth, Saint guides participants through the living record of a dynamic. Whether you're the archivist preserving structure or the oracle dreaming the future, you are part of the mythmaking. Leave with tools to record your Leather legacy in both practical and poetic form.
You’ve served for years. Or ruled for decades. And then one day… it shifts. This class explores what happens when someone transitions their public identity in the M/s community, from slave to Master, or Master to slave. How do you know it’s real? How do you explain it to others? How do you navigate stigma, shame, and the fear of being seen as “less real”? Most of us are not carved in stone. We are people. We grow. We break and rebuild. This class offers thoughtful guidance on rebranding, reclaiming, and ritualizing your transition with honesty and dignity. Saint leads a personal and cultural examination of what it means to change your keys, claim a new name, and begin again without erasing who you were.
Living an Authority Transfer Dynamics can involve unusual challenges on how to communicate when the discussion develops an emotional charge. Is it possible to have clear communication where all parties feel heard and recognized when authority imbalance is involved? Should one “step out of the dynamic” in order to fully express themselves? Join Goddess as we discuss multiple communication, de-escalation and repair techniques that are useful in creating a safe and effective space for resolving difficult situations.
This advanced (301) workshop supports creating and maintaining FRE (Forever Relationship Energy). How to identify areas that need attention. How to identify and address resistance, reactance, reluctance and impedance. Identify where you are in your relationship cycle and ideas for intentional movement towards alignment and cohesion. Exposure to new concepts such as MASK- Authority Imbalanced Dynamic Glitch Analysis and key Ingredients for sustainability. A willing Leader and willing follower are an unstoppable force!
24/7 relationships are often burdened with the mundane act of living. How do you keep the fire burning with dishes in the sink or the lawn needs mowing or the kids have the flu? We will explore how to bring intention, presence, and meaning into something ordinary. It’s not about adding complexity, but depth. By bringing awareness, gratitude, and intention into the smallest acts you infuse the everyday with the sacred and strengthen your dynamics.
Some of us were taught that the Prime Directive is to protect the property, but what comes after that? This workshop proposes ten principles for a service person’s life that empower us to meet a Master’s desires, stay true to ourselves and enlivened in our service. These principles can inform us in those times when our path seems unclear to us or when our Masters are unavailable to guide us. We’ll look at our own personal principles and consider whether there are principles that are more universal to the institution of consensual service.
These dynamics can be challenging, often revealing unexpected vulnerabilities. By becoming more attuned to your responses to power, both given and received, and by developing emotional intelligence, you can build stronger, more fulfilling connections. The workshop will explore understanding your personal reactions to authority, enhancing your emotional intelligence and self-regulation skills within the context of your dynamic, and building resilience in the face of challenges that may arise. Through increased self awareness and emotional intelligence, you can create a more balanced and conscious power exchange.
When you hear “young leather” you probably think of a 18-30-year-old, who has just put on their first pair of boots and walked into their first bar or have somewhere between 0-5 years in the lifestyle. You also may think of the “children” who have no idea of the history, the past, the struggles and sacrifices made before their lifetime. However, I’m here to change that. We see a constant struggle in our community both nationally, and locally in bridging the age gap between the elders, and older generation of our community and the younger, new or upcoming Leatherfolk. In this class, you will learn the versatile group that ”young leather” can cover, as well as the similarities and differences, making it easier to talk, bond and grow with the younger generations. To create a community that is a safe haven for our alternative lifestyle, we must make sure we have raised individuals to carry it on.
Being in a dynamic with a person is complicated enough. Add in a transition for someone who is Female-to-Male or Male-to-Female, or someone who identifies on the non-binary spectrum, can make those already complicated ideas and scenarios, seem daunting. From medical challenges, sexual differences, and navigating the waves of changing in moods and comfort levels (both mentally and physically); we are here to help add some guiding points along the road of non-binary and transgender persons within a dynamic.
Why do some people need the community and others don’t? How has your view of the community changed over the past 5 years? Many aspects of people’s lives, where they live, where they work or even if they are going to work and what matters to them now has changed dramatically. With the current state of the country, many peopLe are confused and scared. Let's talk about whether community is still important to us and the challenges we have really functioning as a community.
The purpose of this class is to discuss some differences between The Old Generation (TOG) and The Next
Generation (TNG,) to discuss some of the myths of “Old Guard,” to share our common knowledge, to find tools to learn from each other to help make our community strong, and to explore and share resources.
Rules, rituals, and protocols provide the structural pillars which define most authority dynamics. While some are common and widely practiced, no two relationships are alike and the same holds true of individual dynamic parameters. In their two decades of practicing M/s, members of House Amor have learned that not all rules, rituals, and protocols are created equal. In this class we’ll dig deep into the nuance of designing, implementing, adapting, and and even discarding them at times. Master Dante will share the concept of his Protocol Priority Matrix. We’ll look at how to assess the emotional, psychological, and practical impact of how any given rule, ritual, or protocol is designed and implemented. We’ll explore recipes for success and failure, dispel a few sacred cows, and offer new perspectives on the way these invaluable tools support and inform our dynamics.
Punishment is a polarizing topic in M/s circles. For some it's a key pillar of the authority dynamic, while others point to extensive psychology research which outlines why it's counterproductive. We'll explore the difference between correction, punishment, and discipline. We'll look at how apology, forgiveness, absolution, and ritual can be potent tools at those times when actions, or the lack thereof, may warrant intentional consequences for the greater good of our dynamics. We'll also look at course correction and re-alignment in M/s when punishment plays no part.
Master Don and Petra are a Master/slave couple that have a fairly significant age difference between them. What type of challenges does a couple like this face? How do they deal with it? How have they dealt with illness and the natural progression of aging? How do they integrate their likes and dislikes that come from being 24 years apart? How do you form such a close bond with someone from a different generation? Master Don and Petra share how they do it and some of the struggles they’ve been through.
There are certain qualities within an M/s relationship that form the bedrock of that relationship. The bedrock is basically the foundation of what supports a relationship and continues ;to make it strong by giving it a sound basis from which to grow and flourish. Join Master Don and Petra as they discuss what makes up the bedrock of their Ms relationship and how that relationship has lasted almost 30 years.
We are often terrified at the notion of failing. Society tells us that being a failure sucks. Over and over, we see reaffirmations of these false narratives. In reality, failure can, and often does, lead to success and generally favorable outcomes. The difference is how one reacts to failures and mistakes, intentional and unintentional, how to make things right, accepting our limitations, and working through them. This class takes us through some of our “failures,” past (v1.0) and present (v2.0), to help show how they can be graceful.
Some war stories and thought-provoking introspection on how you deal with the unexpected.
Health issues, immobility, mortality, unemployment? Let’s talk about how to be prepared for the things that can happen in life.
Service is at the heart of our dynamics and our community. Let's take a look at what service can look like from the Left side of the slash. In this interactive discussion, Master Jim will share some of his personal journey into Mastery, and some of the different ways he has embraced being a ""Master in service"". Come prepared to share your experiences on this topic from both sides of the slash.
Even if you know your current relationship has elements of an authority exchange, how do you transition a long term egalitarian relationship to an intentional authority exchange? MasterJim and dee describe the value of understanding who they already were in their marriage to understand better how to transition to an authority exchange. They will discuss the process, challenges faced, and lessons learned in the steps towards creating their new dynamic
Does having mental health challenges automatically make it so that you cannot be in a healthy
M/s dynamic? Not necessarily. In this discussion, we hope to show you tools to help you navigate your
M/s dynamic despite mental health diagnoses. Autism, PTSD, ADHD, Trauma, Depression, and more can
make navigation in the dynamic trickier. We will be discussing ways to improve your relationship while
working toward better mental health. Especially in these challenging times, daily stressors can make
things even more difficult. We will be also discussing expectations for coping with mental illnesses and
greater awareness about what behaviors can be managed within a diagnosis as well as how
we perceive mental health differently as Masters and slaves.
We all have the fantasy picture of what the perfect Power Exchange relationship looks like, with
all the leather and chains. But when real life comes calling, the “real” dynamic tends to look a lot
different. We discuss ways to ensure that your dynamics can still be fulfilling when wearing yoga pants
instead of skimpy leather outfits. With real life responsibilities like taking kids to scouts or band practice,
how can the hockey dad and yoga pants mom make time to feed the dynamic that we envisioned in the
beginning?
Too often we hear about members of the Ms community not being welcome at
conferences, events, meetings, or play spaces due to their ethnicity, sexual orientation,
race, gender identity, socioeconomic status. We are a family, and we need to support
others. There is hope that we can find ways to create inclusivity at our events. Offering
diverse classes,gender neutral bathrooms, safety measures so that everyone feels safe
at an event, and so much more. We can work together to create a community where
everyone feels seen, heard and respected.
As Masters, we often focus on the mechanics of leading our dynamics, but just as crucial is embracing the leader we are within. This class will explore how our identity, values, and personal experiences influence and shape our unique leadership style in Master/slave dynamics. Through reflective exercises, group discussions, and actionable tools, you’ll gain clarity on what it means to lead authentically on your own terms, not by imitating someone else’s idea of what a Master should be. Whether you’re just beginning your journey or have years of experience, this class provides a space to confidently embrace your leadership role with pride.
“I miss you,” isn’t the glue that keeps our long-distance [M/s D/s] together as nicely as we might hope. Let’s talk about tools and coping mechanisms for maintaining relationships and dynamics. Time, distance, and life challenges are when [M/s D/s] becomes secondary. How do we intentionally keep us together when life is trying to tear us apart
Whether new or experienced, imposter syndrome can, at times, undermine our beliefs, sense of self, attitudes, and personal confidence (in our abilities, skills, knowledge, etc.). This class is a deep dive into the subversive internal voice of self-doubt and explores how, when left unchecked, it can create real challenges to our identities and relationships - especially when we bring it into our dynamics. Join us as we explore imposter syndrome - from both sides of the slash; we will review strategies for recognizing it, potential sources, the impact on the self and the dynamic, and approaches to address imposter syndrome.
Whether in a Master/slave, long term, or new Dynamic, conscious or subconscious resistance to the agreed terms of the Dynamic can periodically appear - in behaviours, attitudes, or the follow through on expectations. On the surface it can appear only the s side of the slash can be resistant; however, resistance can manifest for either side of the slash at different points in a Dynamic. Left unchecked and unrecognized, it has the potential to undermine the strongest of Dynamics. This class explores resistance, and how to identify when this is happening in both ourselves and our persons. Sharing from our 28 years living in a long-term Dynamic, we will delve into strategies to identify the source and navigate the impact internal or external factors have on our Dynamics. It is Understanding resistance and developing strategies to mitigate the impact can help overcome misunderstandings, provide opportunities for growth, and build a Dynamic for longevity.
Because, as the Talmud teaches, “We don’t see things as they are, we see things as we are,” relationships of all types are often rife with projection. If such projection goes unrecognized and unaddressed, then alienation, isolation and, ultimately, dissolution of the relationship is the result. In the case of a Master/slave relationship, the slave projects his or her ideas, feelings and attitudes regarding authority figures onto the Master, and if that projection includes anger, fear, blame or guilt, the toll it takes on both the relationship and the Master’s self-esteem can be tremendous. In this enlightening presentation, Master Skip will explore the underlying psycho-spiritual dynamics that make it possible for a Master to stand in the middle of a slave’s projection without moving, neither accepting the projection nor rejecting it and, in doing so, facilitate the slave’s awareness of the projection, the Master’s own sense of competency, and the realization of the true nature of the relationship for them
During his quarter-century journey as a Master, the experiences of Master Taíno have been many and have shaped his Mastery, his philosophy and his teachings. In this class, Master Taíno will address several aspects or the Master/slave relationships that he has learned throughout the years and that he considers essential to better our M/s relationships. Join us to pick up the wisdom of Master Taíno, now named as a Leather Grandpa.
Kinky baby boomers are now old and need to pass the torch to the younger generations. What is the responsibility of the elders? What should be the approach of the newbies? Master Taíno has a lot of experience working and mentoring young folks and will share his ideas and experiences on the topic. He will lead a discussion on how to make different generations to work together, and how the new generations can live their kinks and M/s relationships their way and contribute to our community.
Join us for a transformative presentation that delves into the unique intersection of perimenopause and power dynamics within relationships. This class empowers relationships by providing comprehensive insights, practical strategies, and emotional support during this significant life transition. What You'll Learn: • Understanding Perimenopause: Gain an understanding of the physical, emotional, and psychological changes that occur during perimenopause.
Who Should Attend: This class is ideal for anyone interested in learning more about the interplay between perimenopause and relationship dynamics. Format: Our interactive presentation and Q&A session. Empower yourself and your relationship through this pivotal life stage. Embrace the strength in change and foster a supportive, balanced partnership. Join us for ""Strength in Change: Exploring Perimenopause and Partner Dynamics"" and embark on a journey of transformation and empowerment.
What is Women in Mastery, and is revisiting or learning Life Skills really important? Yes, it is important! This empowering class is designed for women on the Left-side of the slash to explore essential life skills that foster personal mastery and well-being. We will share perspectives and discuss areas such as effective communication, emotional intelligence, goal setting, and self-care, all in support of a healthier lifestyle journey. Through reflective exercises, attendees will identify their strengths, skills, and challenges while sharing experiences to learn from one another. We will discuss practical strategies for navigating life's complexities (vanilla and lifestyle intertwined) and find tools to stay resilient and confident on our journey. Can we talk, celebrate our journeys, and cultivate the skills needed to master lifestyle challenges together?
Transgender and gender nonbinary people have nontraditional relationships with their bodies, and it is
imperative that members of the kink, BDSM, and M/s members understand who we are and the
motivations that bring us to these worlds. This lecture examines the intersection between transgender identities and alternate lifestyles as well as how these lifestyles seem perfectly suited to offer such individuals access to pleasurable forms of sexual expression that bypass – and sometimes subvert – the difficulties often faced by trans and gender nonbinary people otherwise, also arguing that these nontraditional forms of sexual expression are acts of political resistance that facilitate an ongoing examination of the human experience.
Curious about Master/slave relationships but unsure where to start? This class unpacks the fundamentals of 24/7 power exchange, exploring what makes it different from other dynamics, common myths, and how to determine if this path is right for you. Ideal for those taking their first steps into the world of consensual authority exchange.
Level: Beginner
Power exchange goes beyond rules and protocols—it thrives on emotional connection. This class explores how to balance authority with intimacy, recognize and meet emotional needs, and incorporate rituals that reinforce trust and deepen your bond. You’ll gain tools to enhance the emotional richness of your M/s relationship.
Level: Intermediate
This class is intended for those seeking to develop protocols that support and accommodate mental health challenges. We will concentrate on crisis management, consent models, and effective communication, with mental health as a priority. We will also discuss how to create adaptive protocols that promote stability, trust, and emotional well-being with a mental health focus, while preserving the integrity of Total Power Exchanges or M/s Dynamics.
In this class we discuss the parallels of a M/s Dynamic compared to a CEO/coo business template. Together we will explore how roles compare to each other by defining hierarchy and responsibilities of each. We will talk about trust and interdependence through a foundation based on empowered communication. Finally, we will recognize the differences between consensual, intimate relationships vs. professional structures and how to pull from each to enhance your own dynamic.
You’ve met the person of your dreams. You crave deep connection and power exchange—but every few months, you're stuck in the same fight over control. One of you won't take it. The other won't give it. Why does this keep happening? In this workshop, we go far beyond surface-level dynamics to explore the psychology, communication patterns, and behavioral cycles that create recurring power struggles in Power Exchange (PE) relationships. Using a blend of research, and personal stories we break down the different components of Power Exchange and how missteps in each domain can destabilize even the most consensual dynamics. You'll learn how to identify and correct common errors in leadership, surrender, collaboration, and protocol enforcement. We will help you stop having the same conflict on repeat—and instead, build a dynamic grounded in clarity, collaboration, and consent.
This thought-provoking presentation explores codependency in Power Exchange and kink. Codependency is a complex pattern of interaction that can occur in any type of relationship, but due to the power imbalance in Power Exchange and cultural context of the kink community, can be particularly difficult to navigate. Drawing on current research and clinical experience this workshop guides attendees through the manifestation and consequences of codependence in Power Exchange and kink dynamics including; examination of key characteristics of codependent behavior, strategies for addressing codependent patterns, and the impact of codependency on consent and individual mental health. This presentation is designed for anyone seeking a deeper understanding of the intricacies of Power Exchange relationships, as well as individuals struggling with codependency or a history of trauma and abuse. Whether you are new to the kink community or a seasoned veteran, this presentation provides valuable insight on navigating the challenging terrain of service, caretaking, and codependency in kink and Power Exchange.
In this class, Sir North, who is diagnosed with ADHD, and slave Akasha, who is diagnosed with autism, will share their personal experiences and insights on navigating neurodiversity within a Master/slave dynamic and within the larger context of WIITWD. Participants will have the opportunity to explore the intersection of autism and ADHD in the context of power exchange dynamics and relationships, common challenges faced by individuals with these conditions, the social contracts inside and outside of the community and how neurodiverse folx navigate those social contracts, as well as strategies for effective communication, structure, and support within power exchange relationships. This class aims to foster a greater understanding and acceptance of neurodiversity in the M/s and WIITWD community and provide practical tools for creating more inclusive and supportive dynamics.
We spend so much time talking about building dynamics, but what happens when one feels they’ve lost touch with their slave heart? Join us for a vulnerable discussion about slave Gaia’s journey from finding herself frustrated, angry, ashamed and even resenting service many years in, to discovering new dimensions of surrender and the place she always needed to be in the first place. What happens when you have competing needs? Wanting to be respected, capable, and strong but underlying all of those voices is a deep need to be a joyfully surrendered doormat? How does one justify fighting passionately for societal equity while begging for utter personal objectification and inequity? Join us as we share the journey back to center, where she found her slave heart beating stronger than ever, and how reconciling these questions has dramatically changed the shape of our lives for the better.
Does the person to the right of the slash have to have a submissive personality? How can someone with a dominant personality thrive in a service role? The answers are not always as obvious as it would seem. This class looks at how it can work and work well for everyone involved.
A Master/slave relationship is a dance of souls, each drawing the other into a ferocious embrace that facilitates healing, growth and ultimately egoic surrender in both the Master and the slave.
In this presentation you are invited to dialogue with slave Rick as he shares some thought provoking realizations derived from his 25+ year relationship with his Master, and from his experiences as a practicing psychotherapist within the BDSM community (www.KinkTherapistLosAngeles.com), that will assist you in recognizing the enticing rhythms of your own particular D/s dance.
This advanced (301) workshop supports creating and maintaining FRE (Forever Relationship Energy). How to identify areas that need attention. How to identify and address resistance, reactance, reluctance, and impedance. Identify where you are in your relationship cycle and ideas for intentional movement towards alignment and cohesion. Exposure to new concepts such as MASK- Authority Imbalanced Dynamic Glitch Analysis and key Ingredients for sustainability. A willing Leader and willing follower are an unstoppable force!
As a slave, one often aligns to the will of another. At times, the line that indicates what amount of surrender is enough and what is too much may become blurred. In this discussion, we will look at what it means to surrender, align, where the line that marks “too much” is for each of us. We will talk about maintaining individual power and sense of self while offering surrender, that is healthy and sustainable. In order to provide a safe space to share, this class is limited to people who serve, surrender, and follow.
Center of body and mind, alignment, connection, and balance are principles used in the martial arts and other arts to create powerful and strong technique. Master slave relationships require an alignment of direction and action to have a powerful and balanced relationship. In this class, Tomo will use these martial arts principles to lead us in investigating how we can increase our connection and alignment from both sides of an authority exchange and maintain our center during challenging times. We will examine alignment from the perspectives of the Leader and the follower, how it affects one’s emotional center, how the Leader can guide the follower around difficult obstacles and how the follower can negotiate an impediment and meet the Leader on an aligned path. This class welcomes perspectives from both sides of the Authority Exchange relationship.
Sir DaddyDaun was raised in a Southern Baptist family with eight, yes eight, ministers in Her immediate family. Service is the very core of Her being. Those roots have morphed from ‘organized religion’ to a broader spirituality. She not only had to come to grips with changing how She served Her Higher Powers but how to do this while allowing another to serve Her. Meanwhile Her slave, girl j was raised to never ‘buy into’ any religion ever. Ever. Breaking away from those rules, she found her calling was to serve a Master who served Their Higher Powers. Join Sir DaddyDaun and slavegirl j as T/they share how T/their separate paths of Master and slave joined into one of a spiritual Master/slave dynamic.
